Have you ever wondered what it really takes to become
"Marriage Material"? I will share with you, the secrets to making sure
that you become desirable and show you how to make yourself appealing
to a potential mate so that you are viewed as being "marriage material".
There is no such thing, right? Wrong. Here is a top ten list to consider whether you are marriage material or not:
1.
You are secure in who you are. You know who you are. You know what your
requirements, needs, and wants are. You can be yourself fully. Example:
You are clear about what chores you expect to be done for you versus
those you expect to do yourself. And you communicate these expectations
clearly and get support and buy-in.
2. You know how to
communicate. You have learned and invested in communicating with loved
ones, especially when emotions are heated or the topic is scary for
you. You know how to listen, hear, understand, speak, share openly, and
create common ground in the midst of disagreement to move things
forward. You respond more than react to others.
3. You are clear about how you manage money and finances such that you are open to share with a potential partner.
4.
You do not play games with yourself and others. Example: you don't slam
doors to get attention or give the silent treatment to make point, or
don't call until he/she calls you first, etc.
5. You are clear about your career and goals for the next 5 to 10 years and can clearly communicate them.
6.
You do not have a need for others to agree with you, especially with
heated topics/opinions like religion and politics, etc. You accept the
differences you may have with others and have peace in knowing this is
a gift.
7. You know that relationships must be nurtured and
planned throughout your life. You know this requires communication
skills, connection, respect, and love. You know that you must create
structure in your relationship for frequent money conversations, family
planning, social planning, relationship planning. Did I mention the
word planning enough...I don't think so...planning and communications -
critical for relationship success.
8. You trust yourself to make
the right choices going forward. You honor when you are not feeling
grounded and respond accordingly to return to your center.
9. You are complete with you parents.
10. You know what you want...oh, this is a repeat of #1...it must be important!
