You are a relationship! I repeat, you are a
relationship. The precursor to how you relate to others begins with
yourself. Your atoms are in relationship with your electrons. All of
your organs are in a relationship with each other. How do you make the
above relationships harmonious? You think healthy, eat healthy,
exercise and love yourself.
I recently ended a relationship with
the mother of my son. I was sad, hurt, angry and felt like a victim.
She left me for another man. Furthermore she got pregnant by another
man . I meditated, prayed and seek out advice. What I discovered was
that what cause the relationships to fail was unwise choices. They
included:
- Not researching her history with her family and the original model for relationships.
- Neglecting the red flags that were revealed in the beginning of the relationship.
- Putting my attention on her physical attributes and not giving importance to her mental or spiritual qualities.
- Inquiring to find out what was her agenda and goals in our relationship.
- What is this person maturity level?
Here's
two questions to ask yourself. How do you feel about yourself? How do
you see yourself? These questions are vital in determining the quality
of your relationship with self. The secret is this, her atoms and
electrons were in chaos. Her organs were in conflict. You know what
else? Mine were too. However, in a different way. She lied to me
blatantly. I was fabricating to myself even worse. I neglected the red
flags that were slapping me in the face. She told me her father use to
lie to her all the time. She lied to me all the time and was just
coping the original relationship with a man. I was also because my
father was a master neglecter.
The golden lesson is this, you
must make the relationships with self, priority. Love you, know you,
honor you, be you and treasure you. Think healthy, eat healthy and
exercise. You attract what you are is universal law. The ego will deny
it, neglect and criticize it but that's the nature of the ego. It's the
war with self. You must be diligent and defeat it. Meditate, say
affirmations, pray and visualize. Fall in love with yourself. Look in
the mirror and gaze deeply into your eyes and tell yourself you love
you. Then take love actions. Seek mastery of self first and the secret
is out of the bag. This is how you master relationships.
